I was prompted to write this following a discussion with my aunt T.
As many of you may know, I am a really girly girl down to a T!!! I love everything feminine and make no apologies for it. Not that I'm complaining. Once again, I hear myself deviating. So the story goes something like this.
For a while my favourite aunt T, (not related by blood or anything but as a a true Nigerian, everyone who is more than five older than me automatically gets the aunt or uncle label as a sign of respect) tried to set me up with her son for ages.
A little background about my aunt T. She is an amazing lady. The life and soul of any gathering. I promise anyone would love to have her as a mother in law. Aunt T is simply fabulous.
My aunt applied many different techniques to "subtly" arrange a meeting with her son. Finally one day her wishes came to fruition and trust me I was not disappointed. Andy, (her son) was right up my street, tall, well built, beautiful sexy voice "a REAL man". Aunt T's excitement could not be contained. She was convinced we would "hook up" and live happily ever after.
O boy, was she wrong. She could not be further from reality. LOL! The chemistry started and ended there.
Aunt T constantly reminded me and wanted me to call him. I was adamant not to call him. I told aunt T, I was not about to start chasing a guy. I'm a very old skool kinda chick. I believe Andy's seen me and if he thinks I'm cute, hot, sexy, beautiful or just wanted to know me, he would make a move.....Right???????? I heard NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As to not drag out this story, Andy recently got married to another beautiful lady. They see very happy and I have no regrets at all.
So my question is, Are there no longer any rules to dating? Is it cool to chase and hunt guys down? I've always thought that was a bit desperate, forward, trying to be a man (role reversing). On the other hand, i do commend ladies who know what they want and go for it. I've been told I'm not a Nigerian babe as I would have hunted him down. There is something about that that just doesn't sit well with me. If you were in my shoes, would you have acted differently? As a lady, I enjoy the chase, to be sought after by a guy (for my lack of a better term).
Am I old skool? Too traditional? Have the dating rules changed? Wondering, if they have changed, why was I not cc'd into that memo?
Personally i would prefer the guy to do te chasing, simply because im a shy person in that department; however if you like him go for it.:) hope that helps
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DeleteOf cos the rules have changed am 30 years old and from my personal experience not all guys do the chasing some guys just act normal and see if she's real enough she will make the move not to say chase but lay her cards out there. This for some guys is a turn on and shows she is rather confident in her self. Especially if the dude is good looking and gets a lot of attention from females. Personally 8/10 women from my previous relationship they all have made the effort the one who showed me she's wants it the most is who I'm now married too. Moral of the story if you want it go get it asked no shame in calling or asking I'm out most women now a days do it. Peace
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