ARE YOU HAPPY BEING THE OTHER WOMAN?

I’ve just had a very intense conversation with a male friend of mine. I cannot recall how we got to talking about husband and partners cheating on their respective others. The issue was my friend did not approach it from this angle. My friend boldly stated “most women prefer to be with married men”. This got me thinking, why would any female want to be the other woman?
He was trying to convince me ladies prefer married men or men with partners to single guys. This instantly woke me up from my midday nap and actually rattled my cage. I thought and must have voiced I have never heard such crap in my life.
I have never heard anything so ridiculous in my life, ok maybe I have but I mean seriously? Why would a lady prefer to share her man? Why would any female want to be the bit on the side? The one that has a part time partner and seeing him only at his convenience. Always spending stolen time at her house or in hotels because they don’t take them home, only to have him rush back to his wife and maybe children.
He gave me this rant about women always having their men cheat on them in a “monogamous” relationship whereas with guy who is already hooked up, “they both know the score”.
Speaking for myself and almost all the females I know from my mother, grandmother, aunties, cousins , friends and colleagues (you get my drift), I am yet to meet any who has feels comfortable to be the mistress, girlfriend or the bit on the side. Females usually want to be the only one. They like to believe he is my man (even if he is only boyfriend).
The only reasons I can think a woman is comfortable with being the only woman is if she is out for her material /selfish gains, circumstances which definitely would include low self esteem or a victim of the situation.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about ladies who initially do not know that he has a partner or is married. I’m thinking of ladies who get involved in these relationships knowing he is with someone.
Is it us ladies do not know our worth? Do woman engage in such acts to pass time or gain attention? I clearly do not understand, maybe I’m old skool. My ultimate question to these ladies, are you genuinely happy being the woman?

It's been a hot minute!!!!!!!!

I know I have totally abandoned my blog for a while, been extremely busy with work and life!!! Well I'm back with a vengeance....

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MY LOVE FOR FOOD VS MY PERFECT BODY

As much as I love food especially fast food, Indian take outs, Chinese, subway and of course MacDonald’s just to name a few it clearly was not doing anything for my figure and I guess my health. Instead I found my trousers getting tighter and skirts just not zipping up but yet I could not separate myself from food. I eat when I’m hungry and even when I’m not. I eat when bored and even just because I can afford a luxurious calorie laden dinner at a swanky restaurant. Unfortunately for me, I have fat genes and there is no denying or making excuses for that.
I eventually hit my all time low. I was getting ready for a wedding on a beautiful Saturday morning and I could not find a decent outfit that fitted and looked flattering on my recently discovered “curvilicious figure”. I realised, I could no longer cover the lumps with loose tops or suck everything in with ultra fitted pencil skirts. I slumped on my bedroom floor, half the contents of my wardrobe scattered all over the floor and on my bed, evidence of my failed attempts to find the perfect outfit. NOTHING FITTED!!!!!
I had a moment of depression, very close to having a full on cry, it dawned on me that crying was not going to help neither solve the problem. That was it; I decided I was going to join the gym (which I had been procrastinating about forever). I took myself to my local fitness first and signed up straight away. Instantly feeling so much better as I had a plan. At that moment, I knew it was all going to be ok!!!!!!
Two weeks later having worked out almost every single day and eating SO healthy (yep that does mean no take always or fast food) I’m starting to see results. I promised I would not torture myself by trying on my old clothes but this morning, I could not resist. I threw on my size 12 top shop Bette jeans and they fit like a glove with no love handles/muffin tops.....AMAZING!!!!!!
Sunday morning and I have just finished a gruesome class of body combat. It suddenly hits me.....I’m tired and every muscle in my body aches but it is all worth it!!

Twenty something knocking on thirty’s door.

After a very long day at work, I’m sitting alone in my living room, having dinner made for one. I’m flooded with thoughts or should is say questions. Thoughts and questions which no one really has the answers for. Thoughts which make me wonder what’s happening. Questions which include when, where and who? Thoughts which make me question myself, my thought process and actions over and over again and at times, keeps me up at night. All these thoughts and questions, occupying my mind with no answer.
To me, it seems like it might be a million dollar question with no obvious answer. So I guess you are wondering what the question is. Why am I single? Why does it seem so challenging and difficult to meet decent good looking guys?
Maybe the question should be, what qualities do men require in ladies? What are guys actually looking for? What are their thought processes when picking a female companion, girlfriend and wife? What are the essential requirements?
Yes I know I have detoured slightly but that is because, I along with many of my female friends am single. My friends and I are all very well educated (yet very humble about our education), beautiful, sexy, some us of even modelesque, independent and with good jobs. Yet, we are all single........
What am I missing? What am I not doing or overdoing? What needs to give? Being a single twenty something knocking on thirty’s door, it dawns on me that maybe I have no idea what a man wants and needs?
What do you think?

Taking the bull by the horns

So I Have finally decided to bite the bullet and create my first blog. I have danced around this for a very long time but here goes.......my very first blog. Thinking about it now, don’t know how I am going to be able to squeeze it into my already very tight schedule but one thing I am sure of, where there is a will there is a way. So here goes, happy reading..........